Other improvements include a new and more advanced member portal with easy to access menu items, and complete redesign of various member sections including new photograph and video galleries.  Our site design has been tweaked and enhanced for greater usability and accessibility.

Some areas are still in transition including the Help section, so we ask you to be patient with us as we finalize all the loose ends.  Please however feel free to contact us directly or through the forum to provide feedback and if you notice any bugs or problems with any of the site services.

We wish all our members a very Happy New Year for 2010 and look forward to continuing to make NIDating your number one local site for meeting new people!

Starting this week, you will see a new Facebook button beside the regular Login form, which will allow you to connect your Facebook account to your NIDating account.  Once connected, you will be able to simply login at our site using the Facebook Connect button.

Besides making it easier for you to connect to NIDating, the new Facebook option will add additional features to your account.  Once connected, you will be able to interact with and invite your Facebook friends to NIDating.  Our system comments have been updated to integrate directly with Facebook so when you post a comment on member profiles, videos or photos, you will have the option to share this on your Facebook account!

Since this is a new feature, we would appreciate any feedback from those of you with Facebook accounts who wish to use it.  We will also be revisiting and adding additional Facebook features in the near future, so stay tuned!

Not that there is anything wrong with larger sites and affiliate programs, after all NIDating started as an affiliate to dateclub back in 2000 before we had our own matchmaking system.  It just surprises me that there are many links that lead you into thinking you are going to a local site, when in fact you log in and find no local listings whatsoever.  That’s not to say there are no decent regional sites, if you look through Google you will find many local quality dating sites for the UK and Ireland, you just need to know what you are looking for.

I am proud to say that NIDating has remained to this day a real local site with real local members.  We may be a small site, but we welcome all local residents to come check us out and become part of our wee online community.  Do also check out the other legitimate regional sites in the area because many are fantastic communities that a lot of hard work has gone into and many like us provide their services completely free of charge.  In closing, I hope you all had a wonderful summer and I look forward providing many more exciting features to NIDating in the near future!

Essentially, the couple needs to communicate everything that they feel and the things that they think. Jealousy, for example, is a worm that will eat and nibble at the relationship. If this is not discussed, things may go awry as if it was a rolling sea of gasoline, which if ignited in just a single incident, could trigger the outburst of emotion. The couple should identify what causes the jealousy: third party, insecurity, lack of self-esteem, and many more. Once the root causes are identified, the couple can then move on to the next phase of identifying what actions need to be taken to resolve it. This can mean not going out with a guy or girl. This can mean going home on time and many more. Always remember that there has to be a compromise and that the solutions are what the couple agreed upon.

Last thing is that the couple should listen. Both people cannot talk at the same time. It is understood that one may say something that the other feels it needs to give a reaction to right at that moment. Keep in mind that explanations can wait after the other is done talking.

First off, choose a reputable online dating service. You can ask your friends if they have tried this website and then ask them for feedback. Surely, your friends will never direct you to something that will harm you. Next, check the database size of the online dating service. The larger the database, the better. This is primarily because the number of registered users in an online dating website could spell if it could be trusted. Also, the benefit is that you have more chances of meeting someone you will like. If there are millions of registered users, there is a bigger chance that you will meet someone who lives nearby or in the same area. It is not wise to get into a romantic relationship with someone on the other side of the world.

Lastly, ensure that your personal information is kept confidential. Read the terms and conditions of the website and how they intend to use your personal information such as credit cards, name, address, and more. Try to avoid online dating service that does not use code names. It is very risky to display your name in the Internet with activities like this.

One way of dealing with a failed relationship is denial. Some people will say that they were not at fault or that the relationship is not over. They lead themselves to believe that nothing is really wrong and that things will get better as time goes by. This is not at all helpful because these people will come to realize later on that they wasted a lot of time waiting for the person to go back when in fact there is no one there.

Another method used to cope with failed relationships is rebounding. These people move very quickly from failed relationships to new ones. They meet new people and get into new romantic involvements, but then later on see the undesirable characteristics of the old partner in the new one. The new partner will be a source of comfort for a short period of time. He will be a source of hope and love. A happy life will begin, but then later on turn sour and the person who got entangled in this will have to rebound again.  Rebounding does not really help permanently, just temporarily.

First off, you need to set up a different email account. This email account should be used for socializing only and this email should not contain passwords for other online ventures such as business and banking. This email address should also not contain any information about you in matters of finances, education, and so on. Keep in mind that there are a lot of bad people lurking out in cyberspace, waiting for an innocent victim.

Next, use a codename. It is helpful never to give out your complete name. You may be stalked, harassed, and your identity might be stolen. A simple full name can give hackers access to your other personal information stored in the Internet servers and this might lead them to your credit card information, bank account information, and many other things. Always remember that when you venture out in the romantic area of the cyberspace, your priority is your safety. This means you have to do everything not to reveal your identity unless you are fully confident that you can trust the other party.

On the other hand, there are people who do not want to have a sexual intercourse prior to having a serious relationship. It is common to meet guys who will ask you to sleep with them even without having known them that long. It is understood that women may want to keep men interested, but you also have to delay the sex a little bit so you do not look easy. Always put in mind that nice guys will not push for sex if the woman does not want it. Also, nice guys will not simply disappear from your life just because you refused to have sex with them. If you make it clear right from the start that a guy will not get any until such time that you have known him well, then you will be certain that you will meet a guy who can wait until you are ready. These are the guys who will share the same values as you do.

First off, do not be too eager. Being too clingy will only kind of turn off the other party. Behaving this way makes the other party think that you are just around whenever he needs you or whenever he feels like getting back to you. Crying and being too pathetic is a turn-off.

Next, start off with little conversations like saying hello or just a simple chat on how each one is doing. Try to avoid getting too straight to the point. This is what we can call as slowly healing from the wounds of the heart. You can initiate small talks or respond to an initiated chat casually. As much as possible try not to look over eager to be chatting with your ex again.

If everything seems to be okay, try to gauge if you can now go deeper and talk about what went wrong and how things can be resolved to each one’s favor. Always keep in mind that this discussion should not be about who is right and who is wrong. These should not be about accusing one of something, but about trying to settle your differences.

First off, do not dress overboard. Dress simply and get into something comfortable and appropriate. If you will go to a fine-dining restaurant, dress like it is a formal occasion. If it is a bar, then you can go in your jeans and be comfortable. Remember, dress to impress but always keep in mind that you should also show your true personality. What you want is not to fool your date but to let her see what you are.

Now, never get drunk on your first date. You can drink a little, but do not get drunk or heavily intoxicated to a point in which you cannot stop yourself from blurting out things that you would regret later on. Drink in a way in which your actions will be the same if you were not intoxicated. The bad thing here is that getting drunk or heavily intoxicated is a major turn-off. Alcohol is not really a good idea when dating for the first time. Wine is alright but you do not want to give the other party the impression that you are careless and irresponsible, especially if you are driving.