Dealing With Failed Relationships
People oftentimes wonder what to do when their relationships fail. Some of them cannot accept the fact that it has ended and as a result they cling to the past and have excess emotional baggage. They become so devastated and they cry everyday, unwilling to live their lives normally and happily. Some will even become self-destructive to the point of having to destroy their own lives and future.
One way of dealing with a failed relationship is denial. Some people will say that they were not at fault or that the relationship is not over. They lead themselves to believe that nothing is really wrong and that things will get better as time goes by. This is not at all helpful because these people will come to realize later on that they wasted a lot of time waiting for the person to go back when in fact there is no one there.
Another method used to cope with failed relationships is rebounding. These people move very quickly from failed relationships to new ones. They meet new people and get into new romantic involvements, but then later on see the undesirable characteristics of the old partner in the new one. The new partner will be a source of comfort for a short period of time. He will be a source of hope and love. A happy life will begin, but then later on turn sour and the person who got entangled in this will have to rebound again. Rebounding does not really help permanently, just temporarily.
Sometimes it is unfortunate that why people we want to love, choose not to love us back. I strongly believe that we all have a match in this word but need to wait until we can get a serious relationship with us and will last. When one attempt to a relationship fails, it simply meant to be. If you are affected with the pain because of the relationship, always remember you can recover it. This could be easily dealt with if only our emotions are not evolved when we start to feel strongly for someone but more often than not ,the heart rules strongly over our head.
Comment by Cameron Sharpe on May 22, 2009I had this friend who until now can’t get over her failed relationship its been 3 years now and still can’t get over it. he still text her ex occasionally, the ex flirt with her occasionally which i think is not healthy for my friend. i gave all the advice i know and i bought her several books to help her understand her situation but still nothing happen she still can;t get over her ex.
Comment by pinayplaymate on July 28, 2009