Decide to Become a More Interesting Person
If all you do is work, hang out at your friend’s houses, watch movies and surf the internet, then you’ll struggle to spark & maintain the interest of beautiful women who are interested in lifestyle and adventure. My recommendations for becoming a more interesting person:
Be real: Start using your real opinion in conversations and interactions, rather than hiding behind emotionally-guarded crap.
No-one likes a liar, but everyone admires and respects a person who can be tactful and respectful while stilling saying what he truly feels. I recommend the following books if you want more info:
- The Way of the Superior Man, by David Deida
- Emotional Intelligence, by Daniel Goleman
Take short-courses: Massage course, cooking-class, a few surfing lessons.
A lot of short-courses like those are also an easy way to meet women. A girl that I met at cooking-class (a 3-week course) was one of my favorite girlfriends last year.
Try out adventurous activities: Bar tours around your city, relaxation retreats, mediation camps, hiking, travel, laughter yoga.
Another great way to meet women. They also give you plenty to talk about when people ask, “So, what have you been up to lately?”
Develop more depth to your understanding of the world: Learn from experts in all fields.
For example: I worked in leadership roles for about 7 years in the corporate arena. I read a ton of books on the subject, but the best book I ever read was ‘The One-Minute-Manger’ by Kenneth Blanchard. BTW: It’s the simplest book you’ll ever read and it’s written in the format of a story. Outside of work, I also made a ton of new friends who wanted to spend more and more time with me. The basic concept of the book: Have enough balls to praise and reprimand people. By doing so, people will see you as more of an authority figure and want to earn your respect and approval.
Watch documentaries: So much to learn from documentaries. They are also a source of endless conversation topics.
Just keep a notepad and pen next to you while watching a documentary and make notes of interesting things that you see or learn. For example:
- “Did you know that 10 percent of the Russian government’s income comes from the sale of vodka?” Or
- “Did you know that the Pope has been known to often wear red Prada shoes?” Or
- “Did you know that The Mona Lisa used to hang on the wall of Napoleon’s bedroom?” Or
- “Did you know that fingerprints of koala bears are similar (in pattern, shape and size) to the fingerprints of humans? How freaky is that!” Or
- “Did you know that honey is the only food that doesn’t spoil? Honey found in the tombs of Egyptian pharaohs was tasted by archaeologists and found to be edible.”
Inject those sorts of things into your conversations with women and you will be a ton more interesting than most other guys. However, as I point out in The Flow – don’t be predictable by doing it all the time!
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